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“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style.”
“Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change.”
There is no doubt in my mind that the most pivotal moments in my life have been the biggest changes in my life.
Several of these I could see and feel coming. Others just knocked me over with the force of a tsunami which seemed to come out of nowhere. I was in it before I knew it and felt at times like I was drowning.
On the outside though, it seemed like I was holding it together. I kept up the strong appearance that everything was ok. That I was ok …
But on the inside, it was a completely different story.
All my energy was channelled into just keeping my head above water. It was exhausting and it was all I could do to keep functioning on a daily basis.
I knew something had to change. I couldn’t keep on like this as it wasn’t sustainable.
But I not only wanted to get through this. I wanted to kick its ass and emerge stronger, wiser and better for it. And not even ‘better’.
I wanted to BE MY BEST.
I wanted to LIVE MY BEST LIFE.
And it was those moments that defined me and shaped me to be who I am today.
As each and every one of them has given me something immeasurably invaluable – THE OPPORTUNITY FOR GROWTH!
Because it was what I was able to learn and then apply from that learning that propelled me forwards.
Let me share with you four of my most significant life-CHANGING experiences …
I should have been happy. I wasn’t. I had fulfilled everyone’s expectations but my own.
I was exhausted as I was working long hours … it was slowly sucking the life out of me …
I had no energy, and the thought of going into work filled me with anxiety and dread.
There was so much negative self-talk and self-doubt which filled my head.
I was miserable. Unfulfilled. Restless.
Three months later, I resigned to take up a job with an international legal recruitment firm. A huge risk and unknown. Despite the strenuous objections from my mentoring partner, my parents, and even against the cautionary advice of some friends. “You’ve worked so hard to get to where you are.” “You will be throwing it all away.” “You won’t be able to get back into the law after this.” “Recruitment – what’s that?”
Twenty plus years later, I can honestly say it was the best decision I ever made in my career and I have never looked back. In less than a year from leaving practice as a lawyer, I was earning double what my peers were whilst working half the hours. I had reclaimed my time and freedom, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, I was HAPPY! I loved what I was doing.
It was also the pivotal stepping stone for my transition to becoming the thriving business owner that I am today.
He was my first serious, long term boyfriend. We moved in together not long after meeting. We became engaged. We had an amazing wedding on a boat out on Sydney Harbour with relatives flying in from all around the world to be there for our special occasion. We were divorced a year and a half later.
It hit me like a ton of bricks as I didn’t see it coming. In actual fact, I probably knew deep down that things weren’t right but I chose to ignore my instincts. So I was completely unprepared when it happened.
I was left reeling, winded. The world became colourless and empty. I couldn’t bear to be around anything that was a reminder – upbeat music, certain songs, romantic comedies, other couples.
I couldn’t trust anyone again … let alone myself …
I felt like I was in a big, black hole …
That was twenty years ago. If I met my ex-husband today, would it surprise you then if the first thing I said to him was thank you?! Because out of all that chaos and turmoil emerged an incredible opportunity for self-discovery and growth. And because of that, today I am thriving and the happy mother to a beautiful little girl and partner to her father, a man that I truly love.
Being a mother was something I had always wanted. After my divorce and time spent on my own, I even thought about becoming a single parent, as challenging as I knew this would be. But I didn’t have to go down this path as I then met my partner who had also always wanted a family. And our beautiful little girl was born.
The incredible joy and love I felt for this amazing little person was indescribable. Holding her in my arms just felt right.
And then came the sleep deprivation, the two hour wake up calls, the frequent crying (as she was colicky for the first nine months), the physical changes from the birth by caesarean, breastfeeding and my post-pregnancy hormones kicking in, as well as the loss of ME time and couple time.
And on top of that, needing to return to work three months after her birth to run my business as my business partner was also due to give birth!
I went from being ME to just being a feeding machine! And as my daughter grew older, new challenges arose around juggling business commitments with spending quality time with her, romantic couple time with my partner, and simply time for me to recharge.
That feeling of being pulled in a zillion different directions at once, rushing madly throughout my day trying to get everything done but at the end of it, only getting through half of what was planned (if I was lucky!), and for my trouble, just feeling exhausted, often dissatisfied, frustrated, overwhelmed and guilty.
I felt drained and out of control.
I would go to sleep feeling stressed and wake up the next morning feeling even more tired than the day before. What a vicious cycle!
I was constantly exhausted and I knew that there had to be a better way.
And the solution lay within myself, my mindset and my thought processes which flowed onto my behaviour and actions.
I started to make changes.
I’ve always prided myself on taking good care of my health. Whether that’s through exercising regularly, making healthy eating and lifestyle choices or managing my emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing.
So when the nausea and severe cramping started, I soldiered on and brushed it off as another thing which women have to endure as part of ‘being a woman’!
This continued on and off for several months always around the beginning of my cycle. When the nausea reached the throwing up stage and one morning I was in so much pain that I physically couldn’t get out of bed, I knew something had to be done. My body was telling me in no uncertain terms that something was out of balance.
Four specialist appointments and three scans later followed by major surgery, I was diagnosed with early stage Ovarian Cancer.
Disbelief and shock were my first emotions. This was followed shortly by upset and fear.
And the big question of ‘Why?’ Why had this happened to me? I’m a life coach, for frick’s sake, and although I’m not infallible, I prioritised my self-care as best as I could.
And yet this happened …
I don’t believe in random bad luck. As I believe that everything within my control happens by design. My own.
My body is no exception. And my body was clearly giving me the biggest wake up call of my life.
Without a doubt, it’s been the biggest challenge of my life as it’s forced me to face my own mortality. And my fears around that.
Because although my biopsies came back clear after the surgery and the tumour was removed intact, I was faced with another test after that. My oncologist advised precautionary chemotherapy in case there were any undetected microscopic cancer cells still floating around in my body …
I had to dig really deep on this and make a decision based not on my fears (or hers or my family and friends) … but what I felt would be best for me.
I had to ask myself what would give me the best quality of life and how much trust and faith I had in myself and my body to remain cancer-free …
So after a great deal of soul searching, fact-finding research, and inner reflection, I declined chemo and chose to take an integrative path.
At my next three month check up, my oncologist gave me the results of my tumour marker test. It was a ‘2’, the lowest she has ever seen in her professional life! She was amazed.
[P.S. I’ve scored ‘2’ every time since and my most recent result came in even lower … ‘<2’ which is pretty much the equivalent of zero!]
And I was validated. Not that I needed it. As I had made the decision to trust my instincts and be guided by my intuition.
It’s an ongoing journey and who knows what lies ahead … What I do know though is that this happened for a reason.
It’s given me massive learnings, realisations and insights about myself.
And I’ve chosen to use this as an opportunity to level up. Grow. Elevate. Move up into the next stage in my life.
A reminder to take nothing for granted. As life is precious. Life is a gift.
And the biggest message of all to come out of this … is that I need to honour that.
To always strive to BE MY BEST. To LIVE MY BEST LIFE.
AND SO HERE I AM TODAY …
As I share this with you, I am sitting in my home office, looking out at the beautiful bushland view on this warm spring day, while my partner is enjoying some quality time with our daughter. I feel so blessed and grateful for the life that I have created for myself – doing what I love with those I love.
Of course, challenges still come my way, along with the lows and the highs, but the difference lies in the recognition that it’s not about just living.
It’s about fully embracing life and the inevitable ups and downs that come with it.
It’s about living a life of freedom, authenticity (so you can be yourself), ease and flow … and making every moment count.
And that change is an inevitable part of this, and without it, I would not be where I am today – a stronger, happier, more confident and wiser person than I was when I emerged fresh-faced from law school all those years ago.
And it’s my life-changing experiences, discovering for myself what works and what doesn’t, my extensive training, and the success I’ve had teaching these techniques to others, that have lit and continue to fuel a passion within me and a vision for helping someone like you to not only meet challenges head on, but to fully embrace them so you can turn them into an opportunity for self-discovery, elevation and growth, as I have.
And the first step …? Get back in touch with the real you. Because when you do, you become unstoppable.
Be YOU. Do YOU. For YOU.
Let me partner with you to help you take off your mask and become the person that you know you are and want to present to the world. The best version of yourself.
Be unashamedly ‘you’!
If any of this resonates, makes sense or rings a bell with you, then we should CONNECT. All communication is in confidence.
A warning though …
I am an action-taker so my style of coaching is not passive in nature which means I don’t sit there and just listen to you for hours on end. Although part of what we do is unravelling the root cause of your challenge, equally important and critical to success is the creation and installing of new habits and routines which will 100% support where you want to be.
So a huge component of what you will do with me will be very practically-oriented … meaning I will give you specific exercises you can apply every day to undo your old self-sabotaging habits and create new and positively supporting habits that you can carry with you for the rest of your life-time.
And CRUCIALLY … I will be with you supporting you every step of the way … so you won’t be doing this on your own …
All you need to get started is download the ‘4 Reasons You Can’t Break The Cycle Of Negativity And Self-Doubt‘ by clicking the button below …
MY QUALIFICATIONS AND EXPERIENCE …
Oh, and if you’re wondering about my qualifications and experience …
I am a Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), NLP Coaching, Time Line Therapy® and Hypnotherapy, having trained with the world’s leading NLP company.
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I am also a certified and registered member of:
- the American Board of NLP (ABNLP)
- the Coaching Division of the ABNLP
- the Time Line Therapy® Association
- the American Board of Hypnotherapy
I am a former lawyer and have had over 15 years experience as an international recruiter, head-hunter and career coach, having successfully mentored hundreds of professionals all around the world. Combined with my extensive business, corporate and life experience, I offer a unique fusion of skills and expertise that I am proud of and would love to share with you.
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