IcebergDid you know that 95% of your mental processing happens at the Unconscious (or Subconscious) level? In NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), we call it the Unconscious Mind (versus the Conscious Mind). And the Unconscious Mind is responsible for running and preserving your body.

An example of this is when you blink. Do you consciously think about when you need to blink each time or how many times you do it? What about breathing? What happens when you are asleep? Who controls your breathing and maintains and regulates all your bodily functions? That’s right. It’s your Unconscious Mind.

Your Unconscious Mind stores all your emotions and memories. It represses memories with unresolved negative emotion and presents these same memories for resolution (to make rational and to release emotions).

We can't fully create change in our lives until we choose to face the fears and limiting beliefs that we have

So all that baggage you might carry with you from the past is stored in your Unconscious Mind. Your Fears (eg. Fear of Failure/Success, Fear of Being Alone, Fear of Being Unloved etc) and Limiting Beliefs (eg. I’m not good enough, I don’t believe I can, I’m not worthy etc) all are stored within this space. So when you are doing any work using NLP, Time Line Therapy and Hypnotherapy to release this baggage, you are effectively working with your Unconscious Mind.


Here’s another interesting point – the Unconscious Mind does NOT process negatives.


So if I were to ask you ‘Don’t think about a blue pen’, what do you think about? A blue pen!

Here’s another example. When you are about to enter a stressful situation, you might say to yourself ‘Don’t be anxious’. Then what happens? You become anxious. Why is that? Because your focus is on being anxious as your Unconscious Mind does not process negatives. And you get what you focus on.


So here’s an exercise for you. Notice your language and if you find yourself about to use the word ‘not’ – STOP. And use the positive opposite. So rather than ‘Don’t be anxious’, say ‘Be calm’. Then notice how you feel and what your thoughts are.

If you have children, this is a great technique to use on them when they misbehave. So when they are doing something you don’t want them to do, rather than saying DON’T DO THAT …, replace it with DO THIS (instead)! Because if you tell them NOT to do something, their focus will be on the behaviour that you don’t want them to do, as their Unconscious Mind will not be processing the negative. Shift the focus to what you want them to do or how you would like them to behave, and let me know what happens …!

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